Last week my mother in law, and her brother Leroy, who is 94 came to have lunch with us. Leroy recently lost his wife of over 70 years just before Christmas. I’ve always gotten along well with Leroy. He has had a very difficult time since the loss of his wife. It was different seeing him without Irene. That was the first time in over 42 years that I had seen one without the other.
Since Irene’s passing Leroy hasn’t done so well physically. He has had to take up residence with his daughter. Up until this time they had been in their own home and pretty much took care of themselves. Before we had lunch I was asked if I would give Leroy a shower. We have a walk in shower, and it would be easier for him to get in and out with my assistance.
I agreed, and escorted him to that part of the house. I must say that it was a first for me. I had never assisted another man with a shower before. And even though I am 61 I can still move pretty quick. I can take a leisurely shower, and be finished in 10 minutes or so. I had no idea that it would take 45 minutes, or longer, to get Leroy clean and dressed again.
I was automatically thankful to The Lord that I am still physically healthy. But I also had the thought that if I live long enough it is very possible that I may be in the same condition, or possibly worse, and need constant care. I really am one of those guys that has a problem wanting to impose myself upon others. When the kids were at home I had no problem asking for help if I needed a hand. But since they are grown, and have their own families, I really hate to impose upon them.
To be fair to my children, most would be there if they knew that I needed help. I have friends that would do the same. There have been times that I have been involved in a project bigger than me and someone will just “happen” to show up. It so happens that my wife had made a phone call to get some help for me. I am always thankful for the it, and the task is usually accomplished so much easier and quicker.
Is it right of me not to want to ask for help? I realize that I am not superman, nor do I have such an ego that I believe that I can do everything myself. I have no problem volunteering if someone is in need of assistance. The issue really is not wanting to be a burden to others.
I am so thankful that I don’t have the same issue with The Lord. My heart cries out to Him day and night for help, fellowship, and comfort. He has invited us all to come to Him, and He will give us rest (Matthew 11:28). Peter tells us to “cast all of our care upon Him for He cares for us” (1Peter 5:7). David reminds us that God is our refuge and strength at all times (Psalm 46:1). The invitation from Him is always open. What a blessing it is for us to be able to confide in Him and He’s always there. No phone calls are needed.
May we never forget that He is our ever present help. And Lord help me to overcome my issue of asking for human assistance. The day is possibly coming when I will require it. Thank you Leroy for bringing this to my attention.