From Where Does Our Love Come???

04 Apr

I ask you to listen closely to what Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 3:12 – “and may the Lord make you increase and abound in love for one another and for all, as we do for you.” If their love is to increase, indeed if our love for one another is to increase, God has to make it happen.

Yes, we are responsible to love others, to do whatever is needed to clear away barriers and to extend forgiveness and to overcome bitterness and jealousy and envy and strife and all the sinful impulses that keep us from loving others. It is very clear that Paul believed God must be present working in our hearts to make this happen.

After all, if love were entirely within our power to produce, why would Paul have bothered in praying for it? He goes to God to work in the hearts of these people to awaken them to ways in which their love is weak and self-serving, he asks Him to enlighten their minds to see the depths of how God has loved them in Christ, and pleads with God that His Spirit might convict them and stir them up and empower them and enable them to overcome the defensiveness and selfishness that so often hinders our love for others.

Love can increase far beyond what we think is possible. We may believe that we have loved to the fullest extent possible for us, that our hearts are stretched to the breaking point, that we have at some point reached the limit of what is reasonable to ask of a human being, but Paul evidently believed that love could grow and expand and become increasingly more passionate and authentic and could show itself in far more solid ways than we have even begun to imagine. Here’s how he put it in Philippians 1:9-11 –
“And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God” (Phil. 1:9-11).

Paul prays not only for the keeping of love in their midst, not simply that they hold fast to the usual, but that they experience excess, fullness, an overflowing, a love that ignores any boundaries, a love that knows no limits!

First, true and lasting and Christ-like love must be characterized by knowledge. Isn’t it interesting that where we tend to put love and knowledge against each other, Paul insists they are absolutely essential to the other? In other places he tells us that if all we have is knowledge and lack love, it is useless. In 1 Corinthians 8 he says that “knowledge puffs up, but love builds up” (8:1). There is a kind of knowledge or better still a way in which we come to it and pride ourselves in it that shuts out love, that quenches love. But here in Philippians 1 Paul says that you can’t love well if your love isn’t guided by knowledge. What can he possibly mean by this?
Well, for one thing it isn’t just any sort of knowledge that he has in mind here. He’s not talking about knowledge of the stock market or the rules of baseball, but It’s knowledge of God and His ways and in particular the way in which He loves sinners like you and me.

So what is it that Paul has in mind that we need to “know” to love well?
Our love must be grounded in and flow out of a knowledge of why we should love. In other words, to love well we must understand how we ourselves are loved by God in Christ. Here’s one example of what I think Paul has in mind. In Ephesians 4:32 He exhorts us to “be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Clearly, if we are to forgive one another properly and sincerely we must first be fully aware of and in touch with the depths of the forgiveness that God has given us in Christ. And then in the following verses I think Paul says the same thing that he says here in Philippians 1. In Ephesians 5:2 he again exhorts us: “And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

It isn’t enough just to tell a Christian to love. We need to go deeply into the knowledge of what it means when he says that “Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Here we are given not only the reason why we love others but also the pattern we are to imitate as we love others.

People love others for all sorts of wrong reasons: they feel it is their moral obligation, but their heart isn’t really in it; some are trying to repay a debt they think they owe; others are trying to put someone else in their debt, hoping that by “loving” them the other person will do something in return; and then of course sometimes what passes for “love” is just flattery. This is loving without knowledge.

To love with knowledge is to realize that we were utterly undeserving of Christ’s love; worse still, we were not deserving. So, even though others deserve no good from us and possibly even deserve bad, we are to love. Christ loved us without regard to the cost that was entailed, putting Himself to humiliation and shame and suffering and the unimaginable anguish of being separated from His Father.

Do we love others only when it is convenient for us to do so, only when there’s time in the day, only when others are looking, only when we feel like it, only when we are persuaded they deserve it, only when we expect to be loved in return, only when it makes us look good in the eyes of others

The point is that we only love well and to the glory of God when our love for one another is driven and energized and governed by the knowledge of the kind of love that God had for us in Christ. That’s the simple reason why you will never be able to love someone in “knowledge” so long as you live in ignorance of the gospel.


Posted by on April 4, 2014 in Christianity, Faith, Religion


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14 responses to “From Where Does Our Love Come???

  1. paulfg

    April 4, 2014 at 6:48 am

    Really helpful! Thank you


  2. scatterwisdom

    April 4, 2014 at 4:27 pm

    To love with wisdom helps too. Too many that believe they are in love become fools by wasting their love on a fool.

    What the world needs now in addition to love is wisdom

    Regards and good will blogging


    • Levi Thetford

      April 4, 2014 at 5:45 pm

      I agree. Wisdom is more precious to us than silver or gold in every part of our lives. Best of blogging to you too.


  3. Elaine

    April 5, 2014 at 12:02 am

    Very interesting and helpful. I like the comment that was made regarding the need for wisdom as well. If only people made the attempt to have and use both together, how much greater this world would be and how much happier as well.


    • Levi Thetford

      April 5, 2014 at 6:20 am

      Thank you Elaine. Wisdom is a key ingredient. Hope you are feeling better day by day, thank you!!!


  4. iamradiancej

    September 3, 2014 at 7:56 am

    Reblogged this on The theory behind grooviness and commented:


  5. mwitasblog

    November 28, 2014 at 2:00 pm

    Excellently put. And that is why true love is such a challenge; but it is a challenge for which there is grace enough to overcome.

    Liked by 1 person


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